The all-important law of human conduct.

Mommy, am I not the master of making you feel important?

A sincere admiration can make others' day!

Carnegie once was waiting in line in the post office, and he noticed the clerk was working without enthusiasm and even feel boring doing these daily routines.

Therefore, Carnegie decided to praise the clerk and made him happy. “I wish I had your head of hair,” said Carnegie. The clerk looked up and beaming with smiles and had a pleasant conversation with Carnegie. Carnegie indeed made the clerk a joyful day!

The all-important law of human conduct is —

Always make the other person feel important. — if we obey this law, it will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law we shall get into endless trouble. — Dale Carnegie

Remember, “always make the other person feel important.” The simple method to achieve that is to admire people and let them feel unique and essential.

As William James said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” People love to be appreciated and be emphasized.

What do we want to get out of others?

Then you may ask, “Although people like to be admired, why was Carnegie willing to praise a stranger, and what did Carnegie want to get out of him?”

Fortunately, people are not that selfish and willing to please others if they won’t return. However, we do everything with a purpose for sure. We want the feeling of making others happy without a return, which is priceless.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. — Jesus

Not only Christians but other religions and many cultures consider this to be important in society.

We all want the feeling of importance. We want people to recognize our actual value. We want to be praised sincerely every day. We don’t want to listen to flattery and fake appreciation. And to accomplish these, we need to follow the golden rule and do unto others as we have others do unto us.

How? When? Where? All the time, everywhere. — Dale Carnegie

If we desire to live in an environment full of appreciation and joy, we should follow the golden rule — always make the other person feel important, and make it our habit when facing people.

For example, we can think of a sincere appreciation of the waiter and show respect when talking to them. Or give a hearty smile and greet everyone you meet every day. This habit will bring you the feeling of devotion that lasts the whole day long. And finally, it would return to you!

To sum up, the reason that you should follow the golden rule:

  1. Making other people feel important can bring you, countless friends.
  2. It gives you the priceless feeling of devotion and happiness.
  3. What you treat others will finally return to you, which means you can create the environment you want.

Keep the golden rule in mind and try to execute it from now on!

Content inspired by the book, How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.



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